What Makes A Good Marriage Relationship?

Men and women need to do one important thing to make a good marriage relationship. They need to ACKNOWLEDGE that men and women are biologically different, and that they process information differently. Knowing how they are different can empower a married couple to overcome their differences intelligently.
Dr. John Gray, Phd - the bestselling author of "Men Are From Mars. Women Are From Venus" and its sequels, says that men and women do not understand how they are different. So they need to understand the science of their brains which control all their actions, emotion and thoughts.
According to Dr.Gray, neuroscientists have recently made major findings in the differences of genetic makeup of men and women's brains. Men's brains are found to be separated into different unconnected areas for specific functions like language, memory, speech, feeling, talking etc. These areas are arranged much like a filing cabinet with different files stored in specific drawers. Men can only 'open' one drawer at a time to solve one mental task, before they can open another drawer to perform another task. This fact is proven by the scientists' findings that show only a few concentrated areas of men's brains being activated when they perform a mental task. That's why men excel in performing one single task only at one time.
It's completely different for women. Many areas in the left and right hemispheres of the brains are found to be activated in performing one single task. Multiple connections link one site to other areas of the brain. Nerves are interconnected all over women's brains. That is why women are good at multi tasking. They can talk, listen, remember, feel and analyze all at the same time - while juggling careers, housework and babies!
Knowing this fact, it makes good sense that a woman should take up the diplomatic role to make a good marriage relationship. Furthermore she has the advantage of a well-wired brain cells rich in the neurotransmitter dopamine, in the language and memory parts of her brain. Neurotransmitters relay messages among the nerves and equip the woman to be a good communicator (men can be better communicators if they get the right training no doubt).
So what is a diplomat's role?
A woman should try not to overwhelm the husband with a lot of different things at one time (filing cabinet-remember?). 'Overloading' information onto the clueless husband may result in him shutting out or physically/verbally abusing the wife. Most men ignore things that they could not comprehend or solve, and women end up saying they just don't listen! When in fact, they don't 'get it'!
Find a calm and restful time to talk to your husband. Open in a positive note and do not criticize his lack of communication skills. State clearly that you need - say,10 minutes of complete attention from him to just HEAR you out. Tell him that you may not need a solution or opinion from him. This relieves the man from his"Mr. Fix- it" mentality or being blamed for your unhappiness or problems.
Get to the point and don't beat around the bush to capture his attention. Talking to a man is different than talking to a woman. Most importantly, appreciate your husband for listening because you feel heard and validated. When you are happy, he will be happy too.
And that is the diplomatic role that makes a good marriage relationship of the informed and empowered woman. And the man should try to actively listen!